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Your dog isn't being difficult - they are seeking safety.
When your dog pulls away, shuts down, or lashes out, it’s not disobedience—it’s disconnection.
Traditional training often overlooks what your dog feels.
But behaviour is a language.
And what your dog may really be saying is:
“Do you see me? Do you feel me? Can I trust you?”
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​Most behaviour problems aren’t about disobedience.
They’re about insecurity, stress, and unmet emotional needs—yours and your dog’s.
This isn’t about commanding your dog.
It’s about becoming someone they can feel safe with.
When behaviour is a symptom of disconnection
Have you ever felt like your dog listens but doesn’t feel safe with you?
Or that no matter how consistent the training, the trust still isn't fully there?
Traditional obedience models treat behavior as something to correct.
But what if your dog’s behavior is really an invitation to look deeper?
Barking may be a call for reassurance.
Leash pulling may be a search for autonomy in a world that feels too restrictive.
Reactivity might be your dog saying, “I don’t know how to feel safe here—and I need your help.”
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In attachment-based coaching, we ask: “What is my dog’s behaviour trying to protect?” Not “How do I stop it?”
A relationship first approach to behaviour, bonding, and healing
Inspired by attachment theory, somatic awareness, and trauma-informed care, this approach centers the emotional and relational lives of dogs and their people.
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Dogs, like humans, form emotional bonds that shape how they experience the world. And these bonds are very similar to the parent-child bond. So how we offer care to our dog matters.
When attachment is secure, behaviour tends to regulate naturally.
When attachment is anxious, avoidant, or fearful, behaviour often becomes a form of protest or protection.
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In this work, we focus on:
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Co-regulation: Learning to use your nervous system to help your dog feel safe and secure
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Attunement: Reading subtle signals of stress, overwhelm, or need—and responding with presence
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Repairing Trust: Especially in dogs who’ve experienced early trauma, rehoming, neglect, or chronic stress
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You as a Safe Base: Becoming someone your dog returns to for safety, not out of habit or obedience—but by choice
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This is not about domination. It’s not even just about “positive reinforcement.”
It’s about deepening a felt sense of safety in both you and your dog.
This isn't a training plan. It's a relational journey.
As your canine relational coach, I help you:
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Build emotional literacy around your dog’s behaviour and body language
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Understand and support your dog’s nervous system through your own regulation and regulation strategies for them
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Identify patterns of rupture (moments when trust or safety breaks) and gently move toward repair
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Create a daily rhythm of safety, play, boundaries, and connection
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Shift from “behaviour management” to emotional partnership
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Learn embodied tools to regulate your own responses, fears, and relational patterns—because healing flows both ways​
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Your transformation becomes your dog’s transformation.
You heal together 💕
This coaching is ideal for you if:
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You sense that your dog’s behaviour is tied to emotion, history, or trauma—not just training gaps
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You’ve tried obedience or force-free methods, but still feel like something’s missing
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Your dog is reactive, anxious, withdrawn, or “hyper” and you want to approach them through connection, not correction
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You’re willing to do your own internal work, understanding that dogs often reflect our nervous systems, histories, and relational habits
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This work is especially powerful for:
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Rescue or shelter dogs with trauma imprints
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Dogs who have trouble forming secure attachments (highly connection-seeking, avoidant, defensive, or overly submissive)
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Guardians who want to repair or deepen the emotional bond with th
Hi, I'm Surabhi...
When I first adopted my dogs, I was just looking to...have dogs around me. Never in my wildest dreams did I think about what that relationship would facilitate for me.
My dogs held up different mirrors for me - one showed me how interwoven contorted yang systems were in my care and the other reflected back an inner child carrying grief and rage.
Getting into right relationship with them was hard, patient and uncomfortable work but...it was absolutely essential. And it gave me the gift of safety in connections and the power of fearlessly caring.
As a relational and personal coach, I draw from 8+ years of experience in coaching women 1:1 across the globe, my work in education equity for children and my professional expertise and experience as a Level 4 ethical canine behaviour consultant and applied ethologist.
